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Let Freedom Fly

If you’ll indulge an annual departure from the usual topics at The Responsible One… Following is a reprint of a column I wrote for the Oakland Tribune, Alameda Local section, after Sept. 11, 2001. I will never forget. I hit the mute button, and our living room was free of …

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Scale of Loss

About a year after my mother died, when I was in my late 20s, I stepped on an elevator at work and into the middle of a conversation between two women I took to be in their early 60s. “What’re you doing this weekend?” one asked. “Well,” the other said, …

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Role Revision

People say our roles reverse with aging parents—that they become the children and we become the parents. I respectfully disagree. Children are advancing towards the rest of their long lives. They need guidance, lessons and rules. The parent who doesn’t shape good practices in her child is placing the future …