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Scale of Loss

About a year after my mother died, when I was in my late 20s, I stepped on an elevator at work and into the middle of a conversation between two women I took to be in their early 60s. “What’re you doing this weekend?” one asked. “Well,” the other said, …



I had a lot to keep me busy after my father died—emptying his house, deciding what to keep, trying to sell or donate the rest, finally putting the house on the market. That summer, my husband and I went on a vacation to Italy we’d planned before my dad’s unsuccessful …